Well, I just blocked my first person on deviantART. Ever.
I'm not sure if kids these days have just gotten more sensitive, or if they have gotten ruder, or a combination of both. Either way, the "poet" I offended yesterday was not interested in a peaceful reconciliation, even after I offered a sincere apology.
At least this gave me the chance to flesh out my thoughts on what she wrote, and explain them a little better. If she still wants to be offended, then I guess there's nothing I can do about that.
I don't think, in over seven years of being on DeviantART, with this account AND ~china-lizard
, that I have EVER felt the need to block someone before. It gives me something of a sick feeling to have to do it HERE of all places!
, I put forum trolls on my ignore list all the time
, and think nothing of it. I have no wish to discuss crass things with crass people.
But dA has always been a safe space for me...a place to express opinions without threat.
What's worse, I don't even know what I did wrong
. To explain: Her poem was about depression. From the poem, I felt that she wasn't really describing depression, and I said so. I felt that the narrator was perhaps misdiagnosed.
This was apparently The Wrong Thing To Say. Apparently, telling someone that a diagnosis may be wrong is the equivalent of calling them something very, very rude.
What I SHOULD have said, which I -did- end up saying eventually, was something similar to this: To me, "Depression" is a long-lasting sadness that numbs you, inside and out. It's not about being angry. It's about being so sad and unhappy that you can't stand the thought of living.
I've been there. It's a terrible thing. But being angry at your parents [which is something she included, and which I actually agree with in a roundabout way], isn't always a part of that...but more because Anger isn't a part of depression period
If you feel angry
all the time, that's a completely different disorder. I have that too. If you are angry, you are NOT depressed. Unhappy, yes. Suffering from other possible disorders, probably. But not depressed.
From my experience with the truly depressed, suicidal thoughts and the desire for self-harm are VERY common. I'm not saying one needs to be suicidal in order to be depressed, but I can definitely
understand the temptation.
I guess my point is this: While I agreed with her poem in a roundabout way, it was more because I don't fully feel what she described was depression
specifically. More like melancholy, possibly due to current uneventful circumstances. [I know that when *I* get bored, I get ornery, angry, and frustrated, but not suicidal. Thus why I'm delving back into the artistic world.
The other thing she went off on me about was me saying "The narrator..." instead of "you". I used "narrator" specifically because I did not know
that the poem was about the author specifically. It's common for folks to write poetry and prose that is meant to be from the point of view of someone else.
It's a common literary device, so I don't fully get why this particular poet was upset about that particular point.
Anyways, I hope all of this is over. Whatever her difficulties are, I pray she is able to work them out, because it sucks going around and being angry at everyone who says anything less than glowing praise about you. Not everyone is going to like everything one does; it's just the way of the world.
[I may write and upload a poem about this experience. We'll see how the afternoon plays out.]